I have always known that with my build and voice I will never “pass” as a cis woman. And I had to come to terms with that before I could begin my transition because it held me back from coming out for years.
But with my physical transition I think most people now read me as a trans woman which is really all I need. No one needs to think I’m a cisgender woman for me to be a full woman. I know that I am and that’s the most important thing.
Having this vagina now gives me an added bonus to my inner strength. No one else except people I choose to get naked around needs to know what parts I have. But now I feel like my sex aligns with what it should have been at birth and knowing that means I can stand up to transphobes without fear because I’m more of a woman than anyone they’ve probably met. I intentionally went through the work to align myself to womanhood and that means so much more than just accepting the cards life dealt you.
Finding Haven 
Wow, I take a similar attitude to you on the passing thing. As long as people see me as a woman it doesn’t matter so much that they see me as trans or cis. I also have the advantage that the people in my life that know of my gender identity and my transitioning and accept me as a woman. The greatest of course is the acceptance of my gf of 30+ years. We had a pretty deep conversation the other day including my decision to have vaginoplasty. She doesn’t really understand my need for it, but that is okay, but at the end I asked her how she viewed me now. I was floored when she said she sees me as a attractive woman, especially when all dressed up to go outside.
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