It’s a good thing I really wanted this surgery because recovery is no joke! Every time I have to shit I have to go through a major ordeal just to get up. And I have to carry my bag of pee with me while I waddle and try not to rip stitches from the bolster sewn to my groin.

It boggles my mind that cis people think we do this just on a whim or because of peer pressure. Or conversely think that every trans person wants to go through this (the vast majority don’t). This is a major life decision, especially for those of us with no local surgeons.

I am very glad I’m doing this and I have no regrets. But I also can’t wait to be past the worst of this recovery.